Episode 104 | How to Become a Conscious Leader,
with Author and Leadership Coach Diana Chapman
Commitment 1 – Radical Responsibility
- Conscious leaders commit to locating the “cause and control” inside us, not in external events. This means we stop believing that the world should be a particular way, and instead believe that the world just shows up.
- In the second part of this process, we move from rigid, closed mindedness to curiosity, learning and wonder (something that naturally occurs if the first shift happens).
Commitment 2 – Learning through Curiosity
- Conscious leaders are passionately committed to knowing themselves (the basis of curiosity) and allow themselves to wonder.
- Success here depends on approaching people with an unreasonable benefit of the doubt, especially those you manage. Be truly curious in what they say.
Commitment 3 – Feeling All Feelings
- So many leaders stay in their head and don’t access their guts or hearts enough. To be an effective leader, you need to acknowledge all your feelings.
- Emotions are just energy in motion. They’re neither good nor bad – they just are. The key is learning how to deal with your emotions and process them. Every feeling we experience is a way for us to grow and improve in awareness.
Commitment 4 – Speaking Candidly
- According to the book, the team that “sees reality the best wins.”
- So many people are scared to speak candidly, but when they do that they’re robbing themselves and other people from the natural flow of energy, from what really needs to be said.
Commitment 5 – Eliminating Gossip
- Gossip is defined as anything said with harmful intent, that you wouldn’t say in front of the other person. While gossip is a manifestation of our species’ desire for deep social bonds, it no longer serves us, especially in business.
- Here we break down why we gossip, and discuss strategies for reversing and avoiding our tendency to engage in this destructive behavior.
Commitment 6 – Practicing Integrity
- Remember that integrity has nothing to do with being right or wrong, it’s all about being whole. (The root of integrity is integer, after all.)
- We discuss the importance of not blocking the natural flow of energy, and the Four Pillars that help us maintain our integrity.
Commitment 7 – Generating Appreciation
- For this commitment, we talk about what it means to give people the unreasonable benefit of the doubt and why leaders need first and foremost to pay attention.
- Additionally, we dive into the various reasons why people don’t accept appreciation, and what masterful appreciation really looks like.
Commitment 8 – Express Your Zone of Genius
- This commitment is all about finding that one thing that you do well and love to do. Similar to concepts like “unique ability” and flow state, your “zone of genius” is the area where you make the most valuable, creative contribution.
Commitment 9 – Remember to Play
- Contrary to what most of us are taught earl in life, work doesn’t have to be nothing but stress, misery, and toil. Play, laughter, and improvisation are vital to being productive and fulfilled. (Besides, what good is life without a little bit of laughter?)
Commitment 10 – Consider the Opposite of Your “Story”
- We all have a “story” – it’s the way we see the world, the assumptions we take with us when we approach problems. The idea here is to consider that the opposite of your story is as true or truer than your own.
Commitment 11 – Be Your Own Approval
- Commit to being your own source of approval, rather than relying on it from others.
Commitment 12 – Recognize You Have Enough
- How many times have you caught yourself saying “if only I had enough time. Enough money. Enough support. Enough space. Enough energy.” This commitment reminds us that this imagined state of “enough” is never going to happen, and asks us to be satisfied in what we have now – and get stared solving problems!
Commitment 13 – See People as Allies
- Whether or not you consider someone an ally or obstacle is largely a matter of choice. So which would you rather have, enemies or allies? Choose allies.
Commitment 14 – Win for All
- Recognize that life is not a zero-sum game and commit to creating win-for-all outcomes.
Commitment 15 – Be the Resolution
- Finally, the most important commitment – be the resolution the world needs. Stop being content with apathy and recognize problems as opportunities to step up and become the solution.
To see more of what the 15 Commitments look like in action, check out the Conscious Leadership Group.
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